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To Friend or Not To Friend

I had this one friend in high school. Although we didn't talk often about significant issues, I socialized with her frequently. Though we went to separate colleges, we invited each other to parties and communicated online regularly. This continued after college - up until a certain point. This girl met a boy. He was quiet in person, but online he was very vocal about his opinions. My friend soon adopted his views and started to share them as well. At first, they were tentative suggestions. Then they became loud proclamations. They included such beliefs as "if you do abc, then you are a bad Christian," and "if you do xyz, then you are a bad mother." She was the type of person to say that my depression was the result of too little exercise, saffron, and Jesus. After years of declining communication and an increasing number of these posts, I decided to unfriend her. "Couldn't you just unfollow her?" You may ask. Indeed, that is an option on social med

Oscar and his Owner

The other day I was looking at pictures of puppies in shelters, and I came across a boxer. In addition to being incredibly cute, he reminded me of my optometry school roommate's boxer. His name was Oscar, and I loved him. I am less confident in my feelings about his owner. I just don't know what my life would have been like if I had never met her. During the brief time our paths intersected, AL impacted me in unpredictable ways. It all started in botany class. I sat in the front row but off to the side; I placed my purse beside me to discourage anyone from sitting near me. AL walked in and sat at the opposite side of the table, and one of the first things that she said to me was that she liked my purse. She continued to be friendly and chat with me. I hadn't taken any classes with her before, so her openness surprised me. She was blonde, thin, and pretty, a girl you knew was extremely popular in high school. I didn't expect someone like her to take any interest in a shy